The whole Wedding experience brings out different emotions in different people at different times, and it’s not just the preserve of the bride to show a display of emotion. In fact in 2015 in particular it was the men who were shedding most of the tears and showing how they felt at some of the weddings we filmed. We’re not just talking about the grooms either, we saw best men and fathers of both bride and groom getting out the hankerchiefs and being overcome by the occasion.
Brides usually reach their most emotional point of the Wedding whilst walking up the aisle and later when reciting their Wedding vows, especially at the part where they are asked to say ‘as I take you to be my husband’. This moment is usually the culmination of everything brides have thought about their Wedding day since they were 7 years old. Brides are expected to get all emotional but we don’t always expect it of grooms, but why not? After all it is their big day too.
Grooms do show emotion at the sight of their bride walking up the aisle but more and more are revealing their true feelings during their speeches. Maybe the champagne has a part to play in making the groom feel more relaxed and comfortable to open up in front of gathered family and friends. Understandably nerves kick in when delivering a speech to a 100 or so guests so a few drinks beforehand helps get them through it but this is the moment when grooms really wear their heart on their sleeves.
In 2014 the Royal Mail conducted a survey for Fathers’ Day and found that men were much more emotional than women but were just a lot better at hiding it. Being an emotional man does of course go against the grain of the male stereotype pervaded in society, it is perceived to show weakness and ‘not what men do’. Emotions that men feel often show themselves in art instead, such as poetry, films and music. Some of the most heartbreaking, emotional, romantic and tear jerking songs ever written have been composed by men (Burt Bacharach, Andrew Lloyd Webber, Elton John, James Blunt, Sam Smith). However when it comes to the Wedding day that emotion has nowhere to hide.
I admit that as a groom myself I was suddenly overcome with emotion during our Wedding but to this day I don’t really know why. I put it down to a number of factors and not just one thing. Weddings are emotionally charged occasions because of high expectations, a lot of organising, the consecration of love between two people, the coming together of everyone you’ve known in your life, an outpouring of love and goodwill, heartfelt messages, the relief that the day has finally come – there are so many things to provoke emotion and the bride and groom find themselves at the epicentre of it all.
These moments are often raw and tender, sometimes written as part of the speech, sometimes poured out in a stream of consciousness, Filming these intimate moments are a privilege to see and emotional to film. We often stand behind our cameras with lumps in our throats at such an outpouring during a heartfelt speech or a moving backstory.
This kind of storytelling is a powerful thing and something we love to do. Weddings provide all the ingredients for such emotive storytelling and this is why it is so important for couples to capture these special memories because they will never be repeated in quite the same way again. Before the Wedding it’s all about the flowers, the dress, the venue, the photo booth and chair covers. After the Wedding when it’s all gone the only thing left is the memories and your Wedding film is the only thing that can truly capture these natural, unscripted moments and show the real emotion of the day, so be sure to book your Wedding video with us before it is too late.